The call came! I just heard from the case worker that will be doing our home study! She was one of our trainers in PRIDE class and I really was hoping she would be the one to do our home study!
She called to say that the first step is to send us a questionaire for both my hubby & I to fill out individually and then send back in. She will review them and make notes of any questions she has and then call us to set up the appt for our first visit with her! So, today I feel like we took one step forward.... I have a face and a name to put behind 'home study case worker' now!
I am sooo excited! I teared up a bit when telling my hubby and a couple close friends at work....
I know it's a small step but, right now I will take it!
Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Saturday, March 28, 2009
Trying to be patient.....
I am not really a patient person.... You would think that the 3 IVF cycles would've taught me patience.... But, they didn't!
We finished our PRIDE classes on March 4th and were told by our trainers that they would get our paperwork that we had been handing in together and give to their supervisor and she would let them know when to start the home studies.... I wait everyday to get the phone call from our home study social worker that he/she has been given the go ahead to start ours..... I know it's only been 24 days since class ended and only 17 of them have been business days... But, still I am anxious to get that call and have a date set to meet him/her and get this next phase started.... Ugh! Each day that passes I think-- maybe it will come tomorrow......
Today has been 2 months since we lost our friend MK... I miss her everyday... I think about her everyday... Some days it doesn't seem real still that I will not see her.... I hope she is at peace.... I see her hubby and want to ask him how he is doing but, am afraid he will break down and I know he is trying to be strong... I just want to tell him that I miss her very much and think of her everyday. He does talk about her and tells stories about her and does good.... I just don't want to be the one to make him sad.... MK was a wonderful wife, mother, daughter, sister, child care provider and friend.... She was a patient person.... I am trying to learn to be more patient too.... I hope I can be half the Mom she was when I am a Mom... I miss her so!
Well.... Maybe I will get my call on Monday-- or Tuesday-- or some day this week :-) For now I just wait and know it will come eventually!
We finished our PRIDE classes on March 4th and were told by our trainers that they would get our paperwork that we had been handing in together and give to their supervisor and she would let them know when to start the home studies.... I wait everyday to get the phone call from our home study social worker that he/she has been given the go ahead to start ours..... I know it's only been 24 days since class ended and only 17 of them have been business days... But, still I am anxious to get that call and have a date set to meet him/her and get this next phase started.... Ugh! Each day that passes I think-- maybe it will come tomorrow......
Today has been 2 months since we lost our friend MK... I miss her everyday... I think about her everyday... Some days it doesn't seem real still that I will not see her.... I hope she is at peace.... I see her hubby and want to ask him how he is doing but, am afraid he will break down and I know he is trying to be strong... I just want to tell him that I miss her very much and think of her everyday. He does talk about her and tells stories about her and does good.... I just don't want to be the one to make him sad.... MK was a wonderful wife, mother, daughter, sister, child care provider and friend.... She was a patient person.... I am trying to learn to be more patient too.... I hope I can be half the Mom she was when I am a Mom... I miss her so!
Well.... Maybe I will get my call on Monday-- or Tuesday-- or some day this week :-) For now I just wait and know it will come eventually!
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
PRIDE 'graduation'
Last Wednesday night (3/4/09) we had our last Foster Care/Adoption class.... We 'graduated'! We received our certificates, had an open discussion with some current foster care/ adoptive parents and had a nice dinner w/ our trainers and fellow classmates.... It felt so good to get that step in the process done....
The next step is to wait for the DSS Home study case worker contact us to start our home study.... Once it's started they have 120 days to get it completed.... It consists of at least 2 visits from our case worker, a Fire Marshall inspection and Health Dept inspection....
My husband had outpatient hernia surgery today (3/10/09-- actually it's already 3/11/09 so I guess it should read 'yesterday') and will not be able to do any heavy lifting for a few weeks, so this past Sunday we got some stuff done around here..... One thing we did together is finally got the old computer room cleaned out and moved in some of the furniture we bought a few weeks ago... We moved in the dresser, changing table and rocking chair... We need to put the crib/child's daybed together and ran out of time then all of the furniture will be in there.... I was excited to have a room look like a child's room....
I have a few other 'spring cleaning' type projects to prepare for our home study I hope to get done these next few days while I am off with my hubby helping him recoup from his surgery.... I feel like everything we do to prepare gets us one step closer to our future child sharing our lives, home and hearts.... I can't wait to get the call and set a date for our home study to begin.... Then the next step will start...
It's been a long day and I am tired.... I am going to bed now.... I will try to be back soon!
The next step is to wait for the DSS Home study case worker contact us to start our home study.... Once it's started they have 120 days to get it completed.... It consists of at least 2 visits from our case worker, a Fire Marshall inspection and Health Dept inspection....
My husband had outpatient hernia surgery today (3/10/09-- actually it's already 3/11/09 so I guess it should read 'yesterday') and will not be able to do any heavy lifting for a few weeks, so this past Sunday we got some stuff done around here..... One thing we did together is finally got the old computer room cleaned out and moved in some of the furniture we bought a few weeks ago... We moved in the dresser, changing table and rocking chair... We need to put the crib/child's daybed together and ran out of time then all of the furniture will be in there.... I was excited to have a room look like a child's room....
I have a few other 'spring cleaning' type projects to prepare for our home study I hope to get done these next few days while I am off with my hubby helping him recoup from his surgery.... I feel like everything we do to prepare gets us one step closer to our future child sharing our lives, home and hearts.... I can't wait to get the call and set a date for our home study to begin.... Then the next step will start...
It's been a long day and I am tired.... I am going to bed now.... I will try to be back soon!
Saturday, February 28, 2009
1 month ago today....
One month ago today I lost my good friend MK.... Today many people have joined together to have a pool tournement to help raise money for her family... My husband & I have bought a pool cue and case we will be raffling off... I also made some cupcakes for the bake sale... I hope we can raise a good amount of money to help her family.....
Miss you so much MK! Cannot believe it's been a month already......
Miss you so much MK! Cannot believe it's been a month already......
Thursday, February 19, 2009
Just 2 more classes left!
Last night was class #7 out of 9.... Back in January when we started these classes, it seemed like it would never get here... Now, we are just 2 weeks away from them being done. We have learned a lot in these classes.... The different speakers have opened our eyes and hearts to things we never thought about before....
Last night the Master and Lawyer for our county spoke to us. I got goose bumps listening to them speak about adoptions and how the adoption day is the best day of your life... I really hope we get to experience that.....
I read somewhere that adoptive parents are like expecting parents in the fact that we are all waiting for our child to be 'born', except most biological parents have 9 months to prepare for their little one.... We don't really know when our little one will be born/come into our life... Someone else said we are all "Mommies-in-waiting".....I am trying to think that way....
That I am a 'Mommy-in-waiting'-- waiting for my little one to come in to my life.....
Last night the Master and Lawyer for our county spoke to us. I got goose bumps listening to them speak about adoptions and how the adoption day is the best day of your life... I really hope we get to experience that.....
I read somewhere that adoptive parents are like expecting parents in the fact that we are all waiting for our child to be 'born', except most biological parents have 9 months to prepare for their little one.... We don't really know when our little one will be born/come into our life... Someone else said we are all "Mommies-in-waiting".....I am trying to think that way....
That I am a 'Mommy-in-waiting'-- waiting for my little one to come in to my life.....
Thursday, January 29, 2009
Rest In Peace MK......
Yesterday a good friend of mine died.... It was very sudden and she was only 40 years old.... I have lost a lot of people in my life (mostly family) but, other than relatives, I have never lost someone I was close too and saw/talked too all the time.... I just saw her on Monday night.... We were just texting back & forth to her the night before.... I am so sad that I will never get to see her again.... We would sit and talk and joke and laugh....
She was 8 yrs older than I but, had been married for 20 yrs with a great husband and 2 teenage boys.... I often sought advice from her because she seemed to know a lot and she was willing to share her thoughts/advice.... She was such a nice person and would help anyone who needed it... She was a wonderful Mom and Wife... I hope that if I am fortunate to one day become a Mommy that I can be half as good as she was.... I know her husband and sons will miss her so much and be lost without her....
My husband has known her and her husband a lot longer than I and so we went to the house yesterday to check in on the family, offer our condolences and see if there was anything we could do.... It was just a sad house..... We talked about her and told a few stories but, the whole time I was there I was thinking... I will never be in this house w/ her again.... I am trying to focus today but, it's so hard.... I just keep thinking of my dear friend and how much I miss her already....
After we visited the family, my hubby and I went to our 4th class for the Foster Care/Adoption program... The topic-- Loss and how to help children through it..... I kept thinking how ironic it was that I was trying to keep myself together and all I could think about was my loss that I was coping with that day.... I didn't mention it because I was afraid I would loose it in front of everyone....
Rest In Peace MK-- I miss you so much already! I will never forget you!
She was 8 yrs older than I but, had been married for 20 yrs with a great husband and 2 teenage boys.... I often sought advice from her because she seemed to know a lot and she was willing to share her thoughts/advice.... She was such a nice person and would help anyone who needed it... She was a wonderful Mom and Wife... I hope that if I am fortunate to one day become a Mommy that I can be half as good as she was.... I know her husband and sons will miss her so much and be lost without her....
My husband has known her and her husband a lot longer than I and so we went to the house yesterday to check in on the family, offer our condolences and see if there was anything we could do.... It was just a sad house..... We talked about her and told a few stories but, the whole time I was there I was thinking... I will never be in this house w/ her again.... I am trying to focus today but, it's so hard.... I just keep thinking of my dear friend and how much I miss her already....
After we visited the family, my hubby and I went to our 4th class for the Foster Care/Adoption program... The topic-- Loss and how to help children through it..... I kept thinking how ironic it was that I was trying to keep myself together and all I could think about was my loss that I was coping with that day.... I didn't mention it because I was afraid I would loose it in front of everyone....
Rest In Peace MK-- I miss you so much already! I will never forget you!
Thursday, January 15, 2009
2 classes down..... 7 more to go!
We started our foster care/ adoption classes last week (1/7/09)... The first one was an introductory class..... Last night was class #2.... We talked about and received our paper work to start working on..... Looking at that packet, I got goose bumps.... This is really happening! We are getting closer and closer to realizing our dream of becoming parents! It's a lot of work and getting things together but, as I told my husband last night after class when he said 'It's a lot to do'.... 'It will be worth it!' and he agreed.
So, I think I will take it step by step and try not to get too over whelmed with the process.... Some of it like the application and financial stuff is lengthy but, others are simple and just need a signature or are copies of items (such as driver's licenses, marriage certificate and insurance verification)
Up to now I have felt like we were taking 'baby steps' in this process..... Last night I feel like we took a big step by receiving this packet to start filling out..... We are on our way now!
So, I think I will take it step by step and try not to get too over whelmed with the process.... Some of it like the application and financial stuff is lengthy but, others are simple and just need a signature or are copies of items (such as driver's licenses, marriage certificate and insurance verification)
Up to now I have felt like we were taking 'baby steps' in this process..... Last night I feel like we took a big step by receiving this packet to start filling out..... We are on our way now!
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